Perfect. Is that your life? It certainly isn’t mine. There are many things that are perfect right now, but so many that need to change.
I wanted to link to this unique contribution. Although is not directly about writing, it’s very appropriate and comes from Sonia Voldseth, a holistic life coach and counselor. Published on Tiny Buddah, a site I regularly look to find peace and inspiration. The lessons from this post are something that should be taken to heart by most writers.
“Most men would rather deny a hard truth than face it.” ~George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones
So would most women. Of course there are always exception to every rule. If you are are about to say something then likely you are the exception, or are you?
According to Voldseth this is the way we have encountered life so far. We pu up a “socially acceptable” face to show the world. The rest is hidden under the rug, where we all hope it will stay. That’s where the hard truths go. I dare to say it is human nature.
But we all know the trouble with the rug. Stuff builds up under the rug and eventually you land on your face. Hard truths don’t go away. In the past did this really matter? Probably not, unless you intended to be a politician, or had eyes on celebrity status. Now, in the time of social media — the same is true for all of us.
Enter Social Media
Social media is exacerbating the historical tendency to present only the pretty. We’re justifiably, and understandably, really scared about putting the hard truth out there. I heard this once: “I was without a job for 5 years — what does that mean to my resume?” Of course a gap in employment, for example, is like having a prison sentence — except they did nothing wrong. With social media much more is visible.
With social media we have another chance. Perhaps, the capacity to show we have worth to those around us. Trouble is the world has become so jusgemental. Hence the tendency to hide those imperfections?
Naturally, people don’t post that their relationship is in trouble. The same is true if they are going to lose our business, or suffering physical illness. Perhaps you have some deep emotional stuff that you’re working through, or have been diagnosed with anxiety, depression, or have an addiction. These are all tough conditions and it is natural to shield the outside world from personal imperfections.
If we did show it to the world. Would it bring a whole slew of support, or deep criticism? It’s also a high-risk maneuver. No wonder people prefer to keep it hidden.
Is your life perfect? Despite all of the things that I love about this world I would say it is far from perfect. Most people do what they can to survive. I doubt my life was ever perfect, even when I was earning 1000 times what I do now. In fact those days also had their challenges. Is there any such thing as a perfect world?
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