Limits? Cheers 2 the Crazies, Misfits, and Rebels!

Limits? Crazy Pineapple in love by Pineapple Supply Co CC0 Public Domain from Unsplash

There are people why say people should never use the word “can’t”, “don’t” or other words that gener­ate negat­ive thoughts. In one way they are right. It creates very negat­ive attitudes and these thoughts can stop you from achiev­ing anything in your life. But in anoth­er way there is a differ­ence between knowing what you can and can’t do. It’s not about negat­iv­ity, but knowing your person­al limits.

 

Can’t do That

 

Question by Emily Morter CC0 Public Domain from UnsplashHave you ever heard someone say “I could never do that”? Truth is it is not that they can’t. They simply have no desire to. They have set person­al limits. Perhaps they fear doing it. If they had any real desire then they would simply do it. Truth is most skills are learn-able, with some degree of effort.

 

Some skills are less appeal­ing than others, lets face it computer program­ming or becom­ing a doctor is not for every­one. Overall society will have enough people with each skill that we don’t have to worry about gaining those skills, unless we wish to. When we need to get something done, there are normally people around us, with relev­ant skills. All we need to do is ask. This is certainly true in the corpor­ate world, when you need a project completed. It my be less true when you are self-employed, but still options do exist.

 

Pressure

 

My first year at law school, I thought the lectur­ers were trying to kill me.” A student once told me. “Every night, I had more reading and more course­work than I could possibly complete.” Funny, I went to the same law school as this student, but didn’t feel the same pressure. True, there was always something to read, but it was a matter of prior­it­ising that work. Lecturers constantly emphas­ised the needed to prepare for the next class, reading this case or anoth­er case. It is true they did push the bound­ar­ies, but it is always up to the students to know what their limits are and work accord­ingly.

The first lecture was the worst. In that lecture hall on the first night there were nearly 500 students. All the seats taken, people sitting in the aisles, on the floor near the stage, on the steps to the stage, and every­where the was some square footage. In a couple of cases one student was sitting on the knee of anoth­er. By the end of the first year about 60 or 70 students remained, the rest had decided there was too much pressure and simply stopped attend­ing. The univer­sity had limits too. That first year was neces­sar­ily hard, to remove those who were less than serious about the course.

What Shaped You?

Shapely from dreamstime CC0 Public DomainWhat shaped you into the person you are today? It is largely the exper­i­ences you have had in your life. No matter how long of short that is. When you look back at your life, it does not persist of a long list with ticked items for the things we have done or empty boxes for things yet to do. Our life exper­i­ences are also impacted by the actions of others.
There was a document­ary on TV about Apollo 13, the space craft that had a major incid­ent. It never landed on the moon. Yet I think about that event, to me it is more meaning­ful than the first moon landing because it was about how all those involved worked togeth­er to get that crew home. They lived in freez­ing condi­tions for most of the trip to preserve energy. That 1 minute 27 seconds of extra radio silence had the whole world on edge, biting their nails. The crew survived because of the work of the teams that suppor­ted them through the flight.
We may be the sum of our person­al exper­i­ences, but we also learn from the exper­i­ences of others around us. It is true we may not have exper­i­enced it, but it does allow people some knowledge in setting their limits.

Half read Books

I have a lot of half-read books, but I am certainly not unique there. All the fiction books read. Often more than once. It is the factu­al books that are differ­ent. I pick one up, knowing it has some inform­a­tion I wish to use. Locate that, read (or re-read) the relev­ant sections, then put the book away for future use. A book can sit for decades, indeed is could also do so for centur­ies and still be useful to the person picking it up and reading it. The point is to have it when needing inform­a­tion. The age of the book should only matter if there are more recent advances. Those don’t, neces­sar­ily, make the book useless.
London’s The Honourable Society of the Inner Temple has a fantast­ic legal library, which I once explored. What is the oldest public­a­tion they have, I asked myself. I discovered a bound a bound copy of  the record of Parliamentary debates dating from the 1650s, which I selec­ted from the shelf. From which, I could the read the words of English revolu­tion­ary leader Oliver Cromwell, the Lord Protector of the Commonwealth. Perhaps this edition should have only been looked at wearing white cotton gloves, but it was their in the library for anyone to see and read. I did treat the book with respect.

What do you make of it?

Limits? Your place to liveTruth is we all make choices during the course of our lives, they cannot always good ones. We err, it is a part of the learn­ing process. Errors made should not set the limits, they should help us learn. What others think of us shouldn’t matter. Often though it does, and it can also impact our lives. You may know you are the ideal candid­ate for a job, but if you are not selec­ted for an inter­view and there­fore have no oppor­tun­ity of explain­ing why you are.
Don’t beat yourself up for not being able to do it. Don’t let other people beat you up for it either. I am sure someone somewhere has lived a perfect life, not so, for the major­ity of us. Interaction helps make life happen. There are times we stub our toe, doing mundane chores. Then we make the impossible work against all odds. That is a part of the capab­il­ity we have in us. Any person can be ordin­ary or great, often at the same moment.
Of course, we can help the course of our own lives along the way. We plan ahead and prior­it­ise. We must also realise that we can’t do everything. I have however met many small business owners who try. They don’t have a choice. If they want to get things done they have to do it that way. It means they are the vision­ary as well as the clean­er. If they don’t, there is no-one else. But even there, most know their limits and get assist­ance where neces­sary.

Personal Limits

Each of us should know them as well. I could re-wire a house, but will never touch water or gas pipes. I know how electri­city works. The first time I worked on electric­al wires I was 12 and the voltage was 240. But for my love of software at the age of 19, I may have been an electri­cian instead of getting into business through IT. Each choice we make takes us along a differ­ent path, none is right, nor are they wrong, they are simply differ­ent.
I am not saying people should not try new things. Of course they should. The bound­ary for some people is unknown. For others, it is discovered by doing things, seeing what is possible. I have climbed mountains and abseiled back down, but will not bungee jump, because I am the person for whom the rope breaks at full stretch.
I once met a would-be Everest climber, supremely fit, had climbed all the major peaks in Europe. Their problem started the moment they arrived at Everest Base camp. They could not breathe in the extreme high altitude of the Himalayas It was all physiolo­gic­al and worse there was nothing they could do about it. Their only way up Everest was with breath­ing appar­at­us, not fun, and not recom­men­ded.

Expectations

Bud by JoBeeOneTwo CC0 Public Domain from PixabayShould people set unreal­ist­ic expect­a­tions for themselves? Yet there are plenty of people that do. Innovators reach beyond the sky and rightly so. without innov­a­tion we fail to enhance ourselves as a species. Truth is the person who wants it badly enough would just do it! For most other people there are limits.
Many people are fine with knowing their limits and staying inside them. Do these people achieve anything? Of course they do. It may be less than innov­at­ors, but what they do still matters. But, it is okay if that is what they want. Even super achiev­ers, every once in a while, just sit back and just go along for the ride. Many people are scared, worried, insec­ure, or are clueless about what their future can hold. That is okay. Each of these emotions are valid and tend to drive people down well-trodden paths, because it is what they know. Each person needs to know how they function best.
The option to branch out and do the unexpec­ted is always avail­able. Take it when you desire it.

The Decision

Deciding you won’t do something is differ­ent from ignor­ing it. One option is, always, to get someone else to do it for you, the skilled profes­sion­al. Our world is built around that ability to call in the right person when we need them. The car mechan­ic we call when the car sounds funny. The photo­copy engin­eer when the copies are dark. The same is true for cutting edge projects, it helps you achieve your goal. The home owner for example can update their entire house, and do it cost effect­ively provided they know their person­al limits. The jobs they cannot complete themselves are farmed out to someone else.
If, you think you can’t do it because:
  • You’re afraid.
  • It makes you uncom­fort­able.
  • It might not work.

Perhaps it is best not to try. They are your limits and you decide what they are.

 

There’s a better way that is why there are special­ists avail­able that can help achieve each step that you are unable to take. There are many things I have no desire to do. I am comfort­able with that. There are also many things I would like to do. How to make those happen is a challenge, yet to be under­taken.

 

It may sound too simple but it is true. If you perceive it, then it is possible. Want to be a movie star? Then you have to do what is neces­sary to make it happen, provided you can put yourself in front of the right people. Trouble is, the world is full of obstacles. There are few things we are incap­able of, should we truly desire it. Desire can certainly be a power­ful thing. If we put in the effort then we are capable of succeed­ing with whenev­er it is humanly possible. Getting others to co-operate with you is anoth­er matter.

 

What is Necessary?

 

People, are frequently the obstacle of their own abilit­ies. How can you succeed if you have no real desire to? Have you heard that before? This may be one of the reasons people settle for second best and make a success of that. Not the direc­tion this piece was inten­ded to look at, but was inevit­able that it would be reached.

 

This explor­a­tion of “can’t” was not in the context of lack of want, but in knowing your limits. The invent­ive spirit is avail­able to us all. We simply have to come up with a great idea combined with the desire to follow through with it. Recognising that an idea is great can be problem­at­ic. This is a great stumbling block for most people.

 

Take the example of dating websites. There are thousands already avail­able. To enter the market with a new one is possible, there is ready-made software, which you can tweak without spend­ing a fortune. But the challenge is always — what is differ­ent about your inten­ded offer­ing? What will help you stand out from the crowd? Solve that and maybe you can head a new wave of trend-setters.

 

Crazies, Misfits, and Rebels

 

This is why I’m attrac­ted to being “crazy” in the best sense of the word. Here’s to the trouble-makers, crazies, misfits, and rebels of the world, (he raises a glass of ale to each and every one of them). They share a strong desire to right wrongs, and put square pegs into round holes. Each, senti­ments, I approve of. The people who see things differ­ently are the very people I wish to be around. Not fond of rules? No respect for the status-quo? I applaud you — push a little more, we need it!

 

Quote them, disagree with them, glori­fy, or vilify them all you wish. The only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they are prepared to alter things, build new techno­logy, stretch thought, and go a little further. They push the human race forward in one direc­tion or anoth­er. And while some may see them as insane, we should see genius. The very people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the only ones who can.

 

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